This is an older interview with JET Mag (did it close to Mother’s Day this year) and I just wanted to share. They asked great questions – we talked more about my experiences with miscarriages – and to see the whole thing, click here!
JET: Mother’s Day is this weekend, and for some who have experienced a similar loss it will be a difficult day. What words of encouragement do you have for those women?
Evelyn Lozada: One of the things that gave me peace is knowing that, first of all, God makes no mistakes. Secondly, there was clearly something wrong. We all want to have healthy children and if God is protecting me against an abnormality or something, then I’m fine with that. You just never know. Although my family was there for me; it’s something that stays with you forever.
I talk about it on the show. I’m open talking about it now because it’s a conversation that needs to take place because women do not talk about it. You feel like it’s my responsibility to bring a healthy child into the world, eat right, and take my vitamins. Then when you miscarry, you feel responsible. You have to realize it’s out of your control and it’s not your fault. There are so many that don’t even realize that they miscarried.
JET: Talk about your experience with the miscarriages, how did you know when they were taking place?
Evelyn Lozada: What’s ironic about this is, as soon as I started filming both seasons, I found out I was pregnant. Then, I had the miscarriages. With the first pregnancy, I went to the doctor and when they checked my hormone levels my numbers were in the normal range. The next time the numbers went down. That’s a sign that the pregnancy is not a viable one. My doctor also saw changes in the ultrasounds. My second pregnancy, it was the same exact thing. My hormone levels were low and the doctor knew right away that I was going to miscarry.
JET: Did you have any conditions that many women suffer from such as endometriosis or fibroids, for example?
Evelyn Lozada: I didn’t have any of those types of issues, so that’s why it was such a shock to me when I had those two miscarriages. I had a healthy pregnancy with my son Leo, and a wonderful delivery. Once you are 35 and over, every ovulation counts. Your body changes pretty quickly. I was healthy when I had Leo, but now I’m 40 and it’s going to continue to get harder and harder since I’m high risk. My doctor said I have a 5 % chance of getting pregnant naturally, but I plan to keep on trying.
JET: What else can we expect on the new season of “Livin’ Lozada?”
Evelyn Lozada: My daughter Shaniece started therapy on the show. She opens up about how my failed relationships and friendships have affected her life and why she’s so guarded. I think that can help others by her sharing. I mentored a young lady who is a teenage mom, and I’m excited because I saw myself in her. I was young when I had a baby, but I figured it out and it turned out great. This is really a great season.
JET: What do you hope that women watching your show this season will take away from your experience?
Evelyn Lozada: I want women to just understand that life is going to throw you all types of curves. Sometimes you aren’t in control of everything, just like with the miscarriages. I think for me, I just believe that I know I deserve better.
I want women to take away from my experiences that they can be strong. Women can see that life isn’t over after one or two bad things. They can look at me and see that I went through a domestic violence relationship and was divorced 43 days later. While it was so public, I still left and look at where my life is now. I’m just not one of those people to give up. I want them to know they can get through it just like I did.